So I'm sure all of us judge people. That guy with a tattoo on the bus, the girl with really short hair, the person with a black face on the bus. All of us will create an impression of people, no matter if they're strangers or someone we are getting to know. To me, I find that it is perfectly fine because I'd be lying if I said that I don't judge people. Of course it is best to not stereotype or judge others based on their appearances but no matter how hard we try, sometimes we are bound to make mistakes because afterall, we are human. However what really pisses me off is that towards people you get to know ( a friend or someone at a social gathering ) or someone you are supporting ( be it a musician, a blogger or a youtuber ) , sometimes people base it on that first impression they don't truly get to know the person better or understand the person and then they start thinking that oh, this person is this, this person is that... ALL BASED ON THAT FIRST IMPRESSION. Yes, I agree sometimes people need to change to give others a more accurate first impression of us. But shouldn't we as fellow human beings give others a chance at getting to know someone and understanding them?
Personally, I am the kind of girl that if I meet you for the very first time I am either 1) very hyper and sociable or 2) super awkward and don't talk to you at all till a later time or 3) super emotional, sensitive and all that comes out of my mouth are negative stuff. Call me fake, call me two faced or call me moody. All of us have times we behave differently in different situations. Lets take scenario 1 as an example: I'm very hyper and sociable. Those who like it will start questioning me when I am emotional and say " you weren't like that when I first met you " and those who don't? They won't even bother to get to know you better as they already dislike you just because you're " different "
Like come on guys, everyone has times when they behave differently. No one is happy for their entire life. Similarly, no one is perfect that they don't ever commit mistakes.
This brings me to my next point. Mistakes. We are all human. We all are bound to make mistakes. Famous or not. Rich or poor. Male or Female. EVERYONE makes mistakes at least once in their lifetime. Some mistakes more serious then others, but no doubt are still mistakes. A girl cheating on her boyfriend VS a husband cheating on his wife. Both are the same mistake in 2 different situations with 2 different severity and consequences. Does that mean one should be pardoned and the other punished? No. In both situations, those who commit the mistake must face the music. So. Mistakes. Recently, Naomi blogged about how she cheated on Jianhao that was part of the reason they broke up and it sparked a really huge commotion. Like yes it's probably her fault but at least she had the courage to actually step up and admit it. And also, she isn't the only girl in the world that has cheated on someone. So why is it that when others do it its just a small number of people criticising them. But when a famous blogger does it, it's suddenly such a big deal. A blogger but no doubt human too. It's not like she's God or that she's perfect. So give it a break. And also, stop tweeting " are you going to get back with Jianhao if you have a chance? " or " but you two were so cute together. " There's always a phase for everything. Just like some people will be in your life now but probably not in the near future. So similarly, don't put your so called expectations on this. And then start judging them when they don't reach that expectation.
People don't realise that their words mean weight to others. A simple " oh I thought you were better than this " can really stay with a person forever. The person will start putting pressure on herself and start comparing herself up others and will feel inferior if she thinks she's worse off than others. Once, someone told me " Everyone will have have someone in their life for tough times. But you? No one will ever be there for you. " 4 years ago. Till now, it still haunts me and I do look down on myself because of that sentence.
To everyone out there, don't judge a book by its cover. It's cliche but it's so true. Learn to love others. Learn to listen. Learn to get to know someone. Truthfully. Sincerely. Without any judge mental eyes because judgements you based on first impression can be significantly different from who they really are.
I must've called a thousand times
To tell you sorry for everything that I've done
